“I can’t. I just cannot.” Has that ever been you? It is a statement void of all self confidence.
Raising children can make us believe we just are not good enough … that we ‘cannot’. The demands on parents encompass everything from being a doctor … a nurse … a psychologist … a fine line negotiator … an arbitrator … a fashion guru … an accountant … a lawyer … a judge.
You name it … parents have the role. That isn’t even mentioning the every day roles of cooking and cleaning and laundry and grocery shopping.
I can’t? I just cannot? Yes. You can.
Parents have a natural instinct within that guides them with their children. They also have the natural emotions that come with being human.
Look at the emotions as a wicked chopping machine and the instincts as a calm even flow of reason. When the emotions rise above the instincts … trouble becomes very alive.
This is when it is up to you to recognize what is happening and grab hold quickly.
We cannot ignore our emotions. They are real. Loving our children does not put our emotions at bay. We can step back from them … and must to cope with life.
We cannot allow our emotions to bury our instincts.
Everyone has a human nature to deal with. … to add to the mix. Work beyond that too .. whether it be stubborn as a mule or soft as a cloud. Both extremes and all in between call for a firm backbone and a solid footing. That will pull you forward out of the emotional whirling.
How many times have you heard “take a deep breath and count to ten”? You will find ur way of safely ‘counting to ten’ once you realize what is causing the turmoil within you. Every time you do will be a huge boost to your self confidence.
Children have a natural way wearing down that self confidence. They test the emotions and the instincts of their parents without a blink. It begins from birth.
That testing can be brutal and exhausting. There are ways for you to arm yourself from the emotions that would want to destroy you.
Rest … which may seem impossible. Nutrition … which comes for mom on a fly-by- night schedule. Relaxation … dependant on a good babysitter. Self pampering which means lots of great lotion .. candles … hot baths or sauna … and whatever soothes you.
You will find a way. When you do … self confidence will not allow you to say “I can’t. I just cannot.”
Of course you can.
